What is it about timing? Why is it so important? Timing is important for...
Relationships - There is a lot to be said about 'love', 'friendship', 'loyalty', 'compatibility' and even 'lifestyle'. But, without regard, so many of us forget how important 'timing' is as well. I mean, you could fall in love with someone that either (a) is already/still in love with someone else, (b) is focused on his/her career, (c) is afraid/unwilling to have a relationship, or even (d) has to leave (due to career opportunity, sickness, or even death). Timing. It's important. So, the question remains. If timing is so important, is there anything we can do to effect it? Let's look at it more closely. Come on, we have time... (in case you missed it, yes, that was a joke).
If you fall in love with someone that:
(a) Is already/still in love with someone else
Things don't always work out the way you want them to when your timing is off. If someone has already given away their heart, regardless if the recipient wanted it, there isn't a lot to be done. People can't help who they fall in love with. Let's face it, the heart wants what the heart wants and there's not much we can do to change it. Sorry, but that's life as we know it. Falling in love with someone is easy. The more difficult (and yes rewarding) idea is falling in love with someone that is also falling in love with you. Timing. It's always better together than separate.
(b) Is focused on his/her career
There are often going to be times in most people's life when his/her career is very important. It could be when they are young and want to make their mark on the world, close to receiving a promotion, feel the need/desire to earn more money, or even just have a strong competitive spirit. It's important to remember that if you fall in love with someone that is focused on their career, they will not be focused on you. That may be okay for some people, but for others it may be the kiss of death to their relationship. Speaking from the other perspective, the person focused on his/her career may not even know their focus is out-of-wack until it's too late. Unfortunately for him/her, they missed aspects of their lives that they just can't get back. Again, timing is important for you...and for them.
(c) Is afraid/unwilling to have a relationship
If someone doesn't want a relationship, it won't matter how much you may want one with them. It could be because they have been hurt and don't want to risk being hurt again, or maybe they are still holding on to the possibility that their 'old love' will come back to them. Or it could just be that they simply aren't interested in you. (I know, it's a hard one to swallow.) Regardless of the reason, you are not going to change the mind of someone that already has made up their mind. It takes time to make a decision, and for some, once it's made...it's made. Timing is not always your friend.
(d) Has to leave (due to career opportunity, sickness or even death)
Sometimes people have responsibilities that require them to move or even just travel so much that it is almost like they don't live in the same city anymore. It's hard to have a relationship with someone that 'just isn't there'. It may be by choice, necessity or even bad luck. But, if someone isn't there for the small things, they certainly aren't going to be there for the big things. Now, I'm not sure why I added sickness or death. They are both unfortunate realities, but are just too sad to talk about. But, life is short and as a friend of mine says 'Times a wasting!' So, again, it goes back to timing. Nobody knows how much time they have on this earth or with the one they love. Timing, whether good or bad, does have an impact on our lives.
To wrap it up...
We can't always control it and often can't change it. But, timing does play a large role in our lives... whether we like it or not. It's a reality and time we admit it. Timing, it's important.
Relationships - There is a lot to be said about 'love', 'friendship', 'loyalty', 'compatibility' and even 'lifestyle'. But, without regard, so many of us forget how important 'timing' is as well. I mean, you could fall in love with someone that either (a) is already/still in love with someone else, (b) is focused on his/her career, (c) is afraid/unwilling to have a relationship, or even (d) has to leave (due to career opportunity, sickness, or even death). Timing. It's important. So, the question remains. If timing is so important, is there anything we can do to effect it? Let's look at it more closely. Come on, we have time... (in case you missed it, yes, that was a joke).
If you fall in love with someone that:
(a) Is already/still in love with someone else
Things don't always work out the way you want them to when your timing is off. If someone has already given away their heart, regardless if the recipient wanted it, there isn't a lot to be done. People can't help who they fall in love with. Let's face it, the heart wants what the heart wants and there's not much we can do to change it. Sorry, but that's life as we know it. Falling in love with someone is easy. The more difficult (and yes rewarding) idea is falling in love with someone that is also falling in love with you. Timing. It's always better together than separate.
(b) Is focused on his/her career
There are often going to be times in most people's life when his/her career is very important. It could be when they are young and want to make their mark on the world, close to receiving a promotion, feel the need/desire to earn more money, or even just have a strong competitive spirit. It's important to remember that if you fall in love with someone that is focused on their career, they will not be focused on you. That may be okay for some people, but for others it may be the kiss of death to their relationship. Speaking from the other perspective, the person focused on his/her career may not even know their focus is out-of-wack until it's too late. Unfortunately for him/her, they missed aspects of their lives that they just can't get back. Again, timing is important for you...and for them.
(c) Is afraid/unwilling to have a relationship
If someone doesn't want a relationship, it won't matter how much you may want one with them. It could be because they have been hurt and don't want to risk being hurt again, or maybe they are still holding on to the possibility that their 'old love' will come back to them. Or it could just be that they simply aren't interested in you. (I know, it's a hard one to swallow.) Regardless of the reason, you are not going to change the mind of someone that already has made up their mind. It takes time to make a decision, and for some, once it's made...it's made. Timing is not always your friend.
(d) Has to leave (due to career opportunity, sickness or even death)
Sometimes people have responsibilities that require them to move or even just travel so much that it is almost like they don't live in the same city anymore. It's hard to have a relationship with someone that 'just isn't there'. It may be by choice, necessity or even bad luck. But, if someone isn't there for the small things, they certainly aren't going to be there for the big things. Now, I'm not sure why I added sickness or death. They are both unfortunate realities, but are just too sad to talk about. But, life is short and as a friend of mine says 'Times a wasting!' So, again, it goes back to timing. Nobody knows how much time they have on this earth or with the one they love. Timing, whether good or bad, does have an impact on our lives.
To wrap it up...
We can't always control it and often can't change it. But, timing does play a large role in our lives... whether we like it or not. It's a reality and time we admit it. Timing, it's important.
