Well, I'm not sure how I want to start my blog. I guess I will talk about how much fun I had last night. My friend Donita (we have been friends since elementary school) came over last night with letters I had written her our first year in college. Now, if my memory serves me correctly, that was 27 years ago! We laughed so much at reading those letters. I was so scattered in my letter writing and I had a LOT of growing up yet to do.
LETTERS FROM MY FRESHMAN YEAR IN COLLEGE
Question/Comment as a teenager
I was in love with a guy I wanted to marry, but yet I wanted to date other guys BEFORE I got married (okay, at least I was smart enough to know I wouldn't be dating other guys AFTER I got married). But some of the things I said/asked were just down right stupid. I wrote things like "I do love Don! I just feel I should date other guys. I have a blast with Don and I depend a lot on him. I don't want to lose him, but I also don't want to regret not dating other people after we are married and have kids. I know if I date others it will hurt him a lot and either he will hate me or say it's okay and date others just to hurt me. I know if I date others he will too. But he wouldn't have to rub it in. You see, I will go crazy every time I see him with a girl. (Also, I am afraid he will love someone more than he loves me.) Do you think it is possible for Don to love me while we date others? I know I will still love him but I want to experience life while I have a chance. I think if Don and I are meant for each other it will work out. But, I hate the chance of losing him for good. It is hard to imagine meeting Don and his date when I'm with a date. Especially if he gets serious with her. Do you think he could get serious with someone else?"
Answer as an Adult
Was I serious? Of course he was going to date other girls if I dated other guys! Hello, what was I thinking? Did I really think he would sit around staying true to me while I got dating other guys out of my system? Where's the logic there? Too bad I didn't know you couldn't have your cake and eat it too. I guess that's why 18 year olds are called teenagers and not adults. There was no adult logic in my thinking. I hadn't experienced enough of life to know there are risks worth taking, but if you love someone, there is no risk worth loosing that person.
Question/Comment as a Teenager
Going to college opened up a whole new world to me. I remember thinking I couldn't believe how many people I had never met. I liked meeting new people, but I still wanted the security of the ones I loved. I wrote, "I guess I like the flattery of someone else. Don takes me for granted. (Just like I do him). He thinks I will rearrange my schedule to be with him (I do). But, I don't mind because I know he loves me and I love him."
Answer as an Adult
At least there was some intelligence that was trying to come through my brain. I knew enough to recognize that taking someone for granted is risky business. There are always going to be new people you meet. But, it's the ones you love that should be priority.
Although I was pretty stupid when I was young, I am hopeful that I have matured a bit in the last 27 years...
LETTERS FROM MY FRESHMAN YEAR IN COLLEGE
Question/Comment as a teenager
I was in love with a guy I wanted to marry, but yet I wanted to date other guys BEFORE I got married (okay, at least I was smart enough to know I wouldn't be dating other guys AFTER I got married). But some of the things I said/asked were just down right stupid. I wrote things like "I do love Don! I just feel I should date other guys. I have a blast with Don and I depend a lot on him. I don't want to lose him, but I also don't want to regret not dating other people after we are married and have kids. I know if I date others it will hurt him a lot and either he will hate me or say it's okay and date others just to hurt me. I know if I date others he will too. But he wouldn't have to rub it in. You see, I will go crazy every time I see him with a girl. (Also, I am afraid he will love someone more than he loves me.) Do you think it is possible for Don to love me while we date others? I know I will still love him but I want to experience life while I have a chance. I think if Don and I are meant for each other it will work out. But, I hate the chance of losing him for good. It is hard to imagine meeting Don and his date when I'm with a date. Especially if he gets serious with her. Do you think he could get serious with someone else?"
Answer as an Adult
Was I serious? Of course he was going to date other girls if I dated other guys! Hello, what was I thinking? Did I really think he would sit around staying true to me while I got dating other guys out of my system? Where's the logic there? Too bad I didn't know you couldn't have your cake and eat it too. I guess that's why 18 year olds are called teenagers and not adults. There was no adult logic in my thinking. I hadn't experienced enough of life to know there are risks worth taking, but if you love someone, there is no risk worth loosing that person.
Question/Comment as a Teenager
Going to college opened up a whole new world to me. I remember thinking I couldn't believe how many people I had never met. I liked meeting new people, but I still wanted the security of the ones I loved. I wrote, "I guess I like the flattery of someone else. Don takes me for granted. (Just like I do him). He thinks I will rearrange my schedule to be with him (I do). But, I don't mind because I know he loves me and I love him."
Answer as an Adult
At least there was some intelligence that was trying to come through my brain. I knew enough to recognize that taking someone for granted is risky business. There are always going to be new people you meet. But, it's the ones you love that should be priority.
Although I was pretty stupid when I was young, I am hopeful that I have matured a bit in the last 27 years...
